7 and 8 month update

I've been working on their 7mo post for a while.  However, everything started to melt together from 7 and 8 months... so I'm combining the updates!  I promise a lot of pictures :)

We have started a new schedule!  We wouldn't have to be so nit picky with the "schedule" if we didn't have twins.  I would just go even more crazy without it! Eating every 4 hours and 2 naps during the day.  In bed by 7:30pm for the night.  I still have to start feeding Ashlyn a half hour before Alton.  We start our day at 6:30am.  It's not that I'm not a morning person... but I can't wait for the day when I can set my alarm for after 7am! That'll be a while...    Ashlyn apparently feels the same way :)

 On to what new things the babies are up to :)

Ashlyn:

7mo
 

 8mo

 
-Ashlyn sometimes will "drum" on this bowl with wooden spoons.  It's hilarious to watch.  Most of the time when she has the bowl in front of her she will knock on it :)  It's cute. (This picture was taken way before the 8mo pictures... lol we wear this outfit often, I guess- haha)

 -Ashlyn can now sit unsupported no problem!  She can even sit herself up on her own when she gets on her side/tummy.

-Her reflux is doing so much better! She doesn't have to sit for a full half hour after a bottle anymore.  She is still not fun to feed when she is awake.. but it's a work in progress

-Can reach for toys and then sit back up

-Isn't crawling, but she will get on her tummy and scootch herself forward (face dragging the whole way) and then turn over once she gets to the toy she really wants. She can get up on all fours and move back and forth.  The girl rolls all over the place!

 -A tooth started to cut on August 17th (looking at her- bottom front right)  You can see her top front teeth coming too.

 -Ashlyn isnt' very enthusiastic with solids (surprise surprise).  It takes her a half hour to take close to 2oz.

-Finally got into GI doctor- he wants us to see a feeding specialist.  After a few phone calls I was able to schedule her to see a feeding specialist on Sept. 9th.  Crossing fingers this will be good for her.  They told me to bring her favorite eating utensils and food.... hmm... little do they know she doesn't have a favorite.  The food she'll eat faster than the others is avocado... so I guess that's a favorite haha

-On August 27th- Ashlyn started "clapping".  I will clap and then she will (most of the time.. sometimes she just looks at me like I'm crazy and then will go about playing as usual).  Then there are times where I catch her just clapping to herself. 

Alton:

7mo

8mo

-Alton started on August 17th- when he is on his belly- he can move to a sitting position all by himself.  At 7 mo he still didn't care to be on his tummy. He doesn't spend a lot of time on his tummy now, but he will get on his tummy to reach for things and he will move around.  Not crawling really... more like he puts one leg under him, scootches on his rump and pushes with the other leg.  It's quite comical to watch.. He can sure get around.  He tries to pull himself up when holding on to different things.
 

 -He can turn himself while he's sitting to reach for toys.  He'll also reach really far for a toy and then sit back up.  His loves playing with this rattle that sort've looks like a phone, he loves playing with balls, toy piano and this house that we have that makes noises when you press different buttons.

-Loves to eat solids.  He will down like 4oz of whatever you are feeding him.

-Alton loves peaches!! Even when he seems done with his "meal"- he will always make room for peaches.

-First tooth cut on August 27th (looking at him: bottom front left)

-When Ashlyn is near, he will pull her hair and sometimes it ends up like this...

-I've been trying to get a video of it, but I always miss it.  Alton does what we call "propeller lips".  Like a raspberry, but not.  His lips vibrate together and he makes noises while he does it.  He'll just sit and play while he does it. 

-Naps in his swing- we finally got one that plugs into the wall!

-He can be grumpy (what baby isn't??) but he sure is such a happy little boy.

-He loves blankets.  When he is super cranky, I will put a blanket on his head and he will be all smiles.

Both:

-Now sit in the cart at the grocery store!!  They love sitting in it and being able to look around.  It's our Saturday family outing (mommy and daddy like it because it turns into our lunch with all their free samples!)  It's funny to watch how Alton sits in the cart.  He always has to have a leg up and looks all "gangsta" haha :)

-Both Babies LOVE our cat, Sookie.  They get so excited when she comes strolling in.  They just stop what they're doing and just stare at her and sometimes giggle.  Sookie doesn't feel the same way, but she at least hangs out with us all day in the same room for the most part and keeps her distance :)

 - We took them to the playground and they loved swinging! Alton was too interested in the cars going by to look at the camera, but they still had fun.

Foods we've tried since last post:
-Peach (Alton's favorite)
-green beans
-squash (both liked)
-zucchini (both babies like this)
-potato
-apple
-carrots
-prunes (Alton LOVES them- esp when mixed with apple)
-blueberries
-Pumpkin (with banana)
-puffs (Ashlyn will eat these!! woohoo!)
-watermelon

Random happenings:
The smoke detector went off in the baby's room the other night while we were sleeping (before you freak out- there wasn't a fire). We heard it on the monitor and had no idea at first what it was.  Then because that alarm was going off, our alarm in our bedroom started to go off.  I've been sick so I had taken some medicine to help me sleep.  I was so out of it and I started freaking out that there was a fire. Turns out that the battery was dying and it was beeping to let us know.  Luckily for us, the babies slept through it. I'm so thankful that Jon was home and wasn't traveling when this happened!!!

Jon had another trip to Canada in August. We survived here at home!  We missed daddy a lot though and were so happy when he came home!  I was getting over pneumonia and that was no fun (still have the cough that's left over.. ugh....)

Jon's sister, Beth was so kind and took our pictures again as a family (a few days before the babies turned 8mo).  I am so excited to see them all! She posted a preview on her blog:  http://www.bethvphotography.com/2013/08/c-twins-houston-katy-and-cypress-family.html

Thank you, Beth!!  

Life has sure been an adventure (and it sure isn't easy!!), but we are so thankful to have these special babies in our family.  We sure do love those nuggets!  They are such a joy and they bring so much happiness and light into our lives. 

6 Months

I've been meaning to finish this for almost a month.  Things just got a little busy :)  Jon went to Canada for a few days  for work (the week they turned 6 mo) and it took me a little while to catch up!

While dad was in Canada :)

Can you seriously believe it?? 6 mo and everyone is still alive!  That's got to be worthy of some sort of an award!  I'll just pat myself on the back :)

*Ashlyn:

Doc stats:
Weight:  15lbs 1oz (26.7%)
Height: 25.75" (44.77%)
Head: 16.93" (62.92%)

-Can roll from back to belly and belly to back

 -Likes to roll over the top of a boppy pillow when she is on the floor sitting for a few minutes to let her tummy settle after eating (reflux sucks)
-starting to sit for small periods of time unsupported- on July 4th she started to do really well.
-loves to jump
-can babble "dadadada"
-We call her our "little bird".  She loves to flap her arms.  She'll learn to fly before she crawls haha

-Loves the toy piano

-Drooling like crazy... no teeth yet

-Still has trouble with her bottle.

She eats better when she is sleeping.  We're working on that... I've spent a lot of time on the phone with her doc office this week about seeing a feeding specialist.  We'll see what happens with that.  She is doing so well though.  I am amazed with her and solids.  She actually swallows things instead of spitting it out :)  Little by little she is learning and growing. :)

*Alton:

Doc stats:
Weight: 16lbs 12oz (31.17%)
Height: 26.25" (38.17%)
Head: 17.44" (61.93%)

-Can sit unsupported really well

-Loves bath time and loves to splash- just watch out... you'll get a bath too!
-Can roll from stomach to back... he could roll back to stomach if he tried- but he just doesn't want to. He doesn't like tummy time

-Loves to hold onto toys with his feet when he's on his back
-Loves to "talk" and can also say "dadadada"
-Morning person- super happy to see you come get him in the morning. The happiest time of his day is after he eats at 7am.  Full belly and a good night's sleep!

The shirt says: "made with love (and science)" hehe.. fitting :)

They both love playing with their blankets.  They also love making forts with their play mats.  They both will giggle (or at least smile a lot).

Foods we have tried since turning 6mo:
-Sweet potato (Alton liked it- Ashlyn was just still struggling with trying to figure out solids when we tried it)
-Banana (Still getting the hang of the spoon.. lots of spitting out- but I think they liked it)
-Peas (They like it well enough.. but not too excited about it)
-Pear (Both loved it)
Avocado (both are loving this!)

(we normally feed them with a spoon out of a small dish lol... but when they finish whatever they have- we let them suck on their pouches just in case they want a little more :) )

Here is a size comparison- 2 mo in the bath tub vs 6mo!  Holy cow!  They are both getting too big for those bath slings now!

 Happy 6mo littles!  We love you very much!!

Father's Day

It's my first real Father's Day!  While I love and appreciate my own father (and will consider my adult self a success if I can be half the man he is), this holiday has never been anything special.  It was always just another day.  Boy does that all change when you become a dad!  There is nothing in life that I am more proud of than being a father.

I have a very strange memory, as most of you well know.  I can hear a quote from a TV show or movie and remember/repeat it for the rest of my life.  In fact, probably 1/4 of everything I say is a direct quote from something I have seen (Jurassic Park is one of the most common sources).  In everything else my memory is par for the course or a little worse.  I would be hard pressed to answer correctly if you asked me what I ate for dinner yesterday.  Oddly I do remember the first meal Crystal ever cooked me though (way to a man's heart!).

Memory background stated, I am amazed at how many things with these babies are permanently engraved in my memory.  I still remember the feeling when I first saw them in the operating room.  I can remember what I was doing, where I was, and exactly what it sounded like the first time one of the babies (Alton) ever laughed out loud.  I remember the first time I saw one of them roll over (Ashlyn).

I even cherish the negative memories.  I will always recall what Neutramigen smells like from Ashlyn throwing it up all over me so many times.  I can recognize the sound of Alton crying from the other side of our church building.  As frustrating as it is for all their eating troubles, I will look back on all the opportunities to snuggle with them, while screaming or not, for so long with gratitude.

I am so happy and proud to be a father.  I love everything about it, even the hard times.  I know that in the future I will look back at getting up at 2am to help a screaming baby, feeding a child who wants to do anything but eat, and watching the bank account balance plummet as we purchase formula after formula as nothing but fond memories.  Happy Father's Day, everyone.

5 Months

Well, technically 5.75 months... Oh well :)  Time is just flying... and yet sometimes... not so much :)

I'll talk about the less fun stuff first so we can get to the fun stuff.

Alton has/had been struggling with eating.  He just started to hate it.  He had been taking 6oz at a time and then all of a sudden, he would hit 3oz and he was just done.  Every feeding.  We couldn't figure it out.  He was having a lot of reflux too.  We'd burp him, walk around, find distractions.... anything and everything, we tried.  I went to the doctor and they wanted him to try the nasty formula Ashlyn was on (nutramigen).  He wouldn't even taste it.  As soon as a drop hit his lips he was like, "what the nasty??".  Needless to say, there was a day where he really didn't eat anything.  Then the doc put him on another formula, Alimentum.  That stuff smelled NASTY.  I even put him on a higher flow nipple. He drank it okay, but still was having the same issues.  Not eating more than 3oz at a time.  He would just cry and he couldn't calm himself down.  It was a long few weeks.  Then, we tried another formula.  Similac for spit up.  He slowly got better and all of a sudden in a few days, he sucked all of his 6oz in like 6mins!  He has been doing amazing lately.  He still has a few feedings where he won't take the whole thing, but that's normal.  At least it's not every feeding!!

Then the next issue came for Alton that we are still dealing with.  He won't let anyone else feed him, but me.  Which is fine.... until I have to do something and Jon is alone with the babies.  As soon as I take him, he eats no problem.  It's a bit ridiculous.  What a momma's boy ;)

Ashlyn is still struggling with eating.  She has come so far though and has been doing so much better than she had been.  So, it's all about perspective, right??  It has been a few weeks since she has thrown up.  What a relief.  However, she really doesn't care about eating.  She's not very enthusiastic about it.  She will suck on the nipple, but then she has a bad habit of not swallowing.  So it fills up her mouth and then I don't know if she's scared to swallow or what the deal is but she starts to freak out and then once she swallows it, then she'll suck on the nipple again.  Very weird.  I have also changed her formula.  Nutramigen was just so expensive.  Even with coupons.  It was $35 for the value size can and she went through about a can and a half a week.  I was thankfully able to find another formula that is cheaper that she seems okay with.  I have tried waiting longer to feed her, but it's still the same.  We tried a higher flow nipple and that was a disaster.  She just "drowns" in it.  Oh well.  It will come.  The good news is that she is eating more.  It just takes a really long time.  30-40mins to feed her.  I just keep telling myself, "I will never get this back.  She will never be this small again, so enjoy it while you can".  That and church music help get me through feedings :)

Here is our current stash of formula that we have had to try...  I recently threw out some opened ones that they can no longer eat.  The only ones we didn't pay for are the ready to pour liquid ones that we got as samples from the doctor.  Between the two babies, we are on our 7th type of formula. 

Now to the fun stuff!

We started  rice cereal!  Feeding them for the first time was fun.  No crying!  They were both skeptical about what was going on and made the classic baby faces when they first tasted it.  They are still both trying to figure out what they think about it, but so far it is going pretty well.

They both can hold their heads up really well and are getting better at tummy time!  Ashlyn usually immediately rolls over when we put her on her tummy.  So she has the tummy to back roll down pat.  Alton can do it too pretty well.

When Ashlyn is on her back she likes to find things to put her feet on so she will turn her body (a full 180 if she has to) to find something like the little foam rod on her playmat.  She is also really good about turning from her back to her side.  She is so close to going from her back to tummy, but it hasn't quite happened yet.

Alton loves his buzzing rocking chair.  He just has a grand ol' time in it.  He likes to hold onto his octopus while he is in it.  He loves playing with this musical dog toy from a playmat from some friends that is above him.  He knows how to turn it on and he just laughs and kicks his feet when the dog starts moving.

Ashlyn has a favorite toy already.  We call it her "BFF Jill".  It's this plastic doll that she will just start cooing at whenever she sees it.  Her eyes go wide and she gets a big smile when we bring out "bff jill" lol.

They have both finally found their feet!!

Alton is so good at grabbing things.  You can just see him thinking about it.  He'll hold onto his toys and shake them a little until they fall out of his hands or he tosses them haha.  He loves to look at picture/board books.

They are both really good about sitting in their bumbo chairs.  They used to spit up as soon as we put them in the chairs, but now it doesn't happen as often.  Improvement!!  We are working on sitting and I am hoping that within a few weeks, they'll start figuring out to sit on their own.  I have a feeling that Alton will do it first.  He loves to be sitting or being held in a standing position.  Which is why we bought some "walkers".  Their feet can barely touch the floor in them, but it holds them upright and their bodies don't fold in funny to cause them to spit up, so it's perfect.  Ashlyn's came in the mail first and I think Alton's will come today (I got a really good deal on amazon)!  They both love being in it!

 

They are a joy to have and they are so fun to play with.  Feedings will eventually get better... I'm hoping.  We love them both so very much. 

Mother's Day

Last year on Mother's day Jon and I had a hunch that IVF worked, but we hadn't gotten the official  word from the doctor.  The day after mother's day is when we found out.  So timely :)

Now that I am a mom, it is surreal.  I still look at these babies and think, "I have TWO kids???"  and I still feel like I have no idea what I'm doing :) 

Some things I love about being a mom:

-Going to get the babies from their cribs and they just start smiling really big, flapping their arms and kicking their feet because they are so happy. 
-Bath time.  They both make the funniest faces when they're in the tub.  Alton loves to splash... he thinks we need a bath too. He kicks his legs and waves his arms in the water. :)  Ashlyn makes a lot of noises and splashes with her hands.
-Snuggling
-Watching them grow into their own personalities
-Hearing them laugh

There are so many things I could list.  They are really special babies and they fit in perfectly with us. 

Still Alive

I know... we have so much to catch up on.  What's new??  Anyways, I just wanted to share this before I forgot.  A friend of mine sent me this article and it gave us a good laugh :)

Steve Wiens: To Parents of Small Children: Let Me Be the One Who Says It Out Loud

I am in a season of my life right now where I feel bone-tired almost all of the time. Ragged, how-am-I-going-to-make-it-to-the-end-of-the-day, eyes burning exhausted.

I have three boys ages 5 and under. I'm not complaining about that. Well, maybe I am a little bit. But I know that there are people who would give anything for a house full of laughter and chaos. I was that person for years and years; the pain of infertility is stabbing and throbbing and constant. I remember allowing hope to rise and then seeing it crash all around me, month after month, for seven years. I am working on another post about infertility that will come at a later date.

But right now, in my actual life, I have three boys ages 5 and under. There are many moments where they are utterly delightful, like last week, when Isaac told my sister-in-law that, "My daddy has hair all over." Or when Elijah put a green washcloth over his chin and cheeks, and proudly declared, "Daddy! I have a beard just like you!" Or when Ben sneaks downstairs in the morning before the other boys do, smiles at me, and says, "Daddy and Ben time."

But there are also many moments when I have no idea how I'm going to make it until their bedtime. The constant demands, the needs and the fighting are fingernails across the chalkboard every single day.

One of my children is for sure going to be the next Steve Jobs. I now have immense empathy for his parents. He has a precise vision of what he wants -- exactly that way and no other way. Sometimes, it's the way his plate needs to be centered exactly to his chair, or how his socks go on, or exactly how the picture of the pink dolphin needs to look -- with brave eyes, not sad eyes, daddy! He is a laser beam, and he is not satisfied until it's exactly right.

I have to confess that sometimes, the sound of his screaming drives me to hide in the pantry. And I will neither confirm nor deny that while in there, I compulsively eat chips and/or dark chocolate.

There are people who say this to me:

"You should enjoy every moment now! They grow up so fast!"

I usually smile and give some sort of guffaw, but inside, I secretly want to hold them under water. Just for a minute or so. Just until they panic a little.

If you have friends with small children -- especially if your children are now teenagers or if they're grown -- please vow to me right now that you will never say this to them. Not because it's not true, but because it really, really doesn't help.

We know it's true that they grow up too fast. But feeling like I have to enjoy every moment doesn't feel like a gift, it feels like one more thing that is impossible to do, and right now, that list is way too long. Not every moment is enjoyable as a parent; it wasn't for you, and it isn't for me. You just have obviously forgotten. I can forgive you for that. But if you tell me to enjoy every moment one more time, I will need to break up with you.

If you are a parent of small children, you know that there are moments of spectacular delight, and you can't believe you get to be around these little people. But let me be the one who says the following things out loud:

You are not a terrible parent if you can't figure out a way for your children to eat as healthy as your friend's children do. She's obviously using a bizarre and probably illegal form of hypnotism.

You are not a terrible parent if you yell at your kids sometimes. You have little dictators living in your house. If someone else talked to you like that, they'd be put in prison.

You are not a terrible parent if you can't figure out how to calmly give them appropriate consequences in real time for every single act of terrorism that they so creatively devise.

You are not a terrible parent if you'd rather be at work.

You are not a terrible parent if you just can't wait for them to go to bed.

You are not a terrible parent if the sound of their voices sometimes makes you want to drink and never stop.

You're not a terrible parent.

You're an actual parent with limits. You cannot do it all. We all need to admit that one of the casualties specific to our information saturated culture is that we have sky-scraper standards for parenting, where we feel like we're failing horribly if we feed our children chicken nuggets and we let them watch TV in the morning.

One of the reasons we are so exhausted is that we are oversaturated with information about the kind of parents we should be.

So, maybe it's time to stop reading the blogs that tell you how to raise the next president who knows how to read when she's 3 and who cooks, not only eats, her vegetables. Maybe it's time to embrace being the kind of parent who says sorry when you yell. Who models what it's like to take time for yourself. Who asks God to help you to be a better version of the person that you actually are, not for more strength to be an ideal parent.

So, the next time you see your friends with small children with that foggy and desperate look in their eyes, order them a pizza and send it to their house that night. Volunteer to take their kids for a few hours so they can be alone in their own house and have sex when they're not so tired, for heaven's sake. Put your hand on their shoulder, look them in the eyes, and tell them that they're doing a good job. Just don't freak out if they start weeping uncontrollably. Most of the time, we feel like we're botching the whole deal and our kids will turn into horrible criminals who hate us and will never want to be around us when they're older.

You're bone-tired. I'm not sure when it's going to get better. Today might be a good day or it might be the day that you lost it in a way that surprised even yourself.

Breathe in. Breathe out.

You're not alone.
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After all that reading, you deserve a pic of the babies at 5mo :)  That update is coming soon... or at least it's on my to-do list :)

Schedule shift

The babies are just super grumpy when it comes to eating.  When they aren't eating, they are happy, smiling... and just generally really good babies.  I have no clue about this feeding thing, but it makes for really rough times.  I've never met a baby who didn't like to eat... until these two came into the world :)  I keep asking Heavenly Father what I'm supposed to be learning from this.  Patience?  I have no idea.   All I know is that I'm tired of writing every single ml down that they drink and having to count everything up during the day.

They refuse to eat when propped up on boppy pillows too.  I've even tried both in bouncy seats and that was a no go.  So, I end up feeding them one at a time and they scream all the way through it. They also both take a half hour or longer to eat, so there is always one waiting to be fed or to get attention.  I saw this product online yesterday called "table for two" and wished that it wasn't so darn expensive ($250)! I'd be so willing to try it out if I could try it for free.  If It worked though for the babies... I'd be all over that and I'd gladly spend the money!  Anyone want to donate?? :)

I feel awkward whenever people are watching us feed them... it just looks like we are just forcing them to eat.  It feels terrible.  However, if we don't, they don't eat.  I've gotten the comments like "sure looks like they don't want that...."  well, of course they don't... but they have to eat!

At the 4mo appointment the nurse asked if they were both taking over 30oz/day.  I laughed to myself because I'm just proud that Ashlyn takes over 20 a day!  Alton hits 30oz and sometimes more, so he is right on par.

We have gone back and forth on changing their schedule to spread out feedings.  When we did this the first time, Ashlyn didn't make up for what she lost and we had to start getting her up in the middle of the night.  She just doesn't cry to let us know she's hungry.  The 2nd night in the hospital she was in the nursery.  They didn't feed her at all.  Why?  Because she didn't cry to let them know.  They had a lot of other babies in there that night and they were going off of cues.  That's great and works for most babies, but for our little Ashlyn, she doesn't care to eat.  I remember that next morning when the nurse brought her back in and looked at her chart and was like "well, Ashlyn last ate at... Oh my gosh!  9pm lastnight!!"  It was 9am... and there she was just looking around and not crying.

So, this has been our struggle with her.  Now, Alton has problems while he eats.  I know it's reflux, because he arches and screams and starts coughing... but when he stops eating... he's fine and full of smiles.  Feeding time makes me cringe and I hate that.  There is nothing wrong with them other than a little reflux.  They are just picky babies and they want you to know it lol.

Today we are staring to transition them to a different schedule.  I am beyond nervous.  The 7am feeding went ok so far... but Ashlyn put up a fuss halfway through.  I was able to feed Alton while he was half asleep, but that's a rarity that I can get him to be half asleep so he'll take his bottle.  It's so ridiculous lol.

New Feed and Nap Schedule:

7am:  feeding #1
9am:  nap
10:30-11:30am:  feeding #2
12:30pm:  nap
2pm:  feeding #3
4pm: nap
5:30pm:  feeding #4
7pm:  bath
7:30: cat nap
9pm: feeding #5... hopefully with them half asleep
9:30-9:45: put babies down for the night.  Silence :)

We will have to do this for a few days to see how it sticks.  Ashlyn will probably go down with how much she eats, but I just have to trust that she will learn and take enough. I know that she won't wake us in the middle of the night.  She has only ever done that 3x.. ever.  It was always Alton who got us up and then we would just wake her up because he was up.  So, we might have to do a midnight feeding or a 1am thing for a little bit... I really don't want to.  So, we will see how this goes once we hit the weekend.  Jon will be home and we can reevaluate.

We do run into a slight problem on one Sunday a month though.  I teach a lesson the 2nd Sunday every month at my church and that starts at 11am.  Let's just hope the babies eat faster by then... fat chance :)  So, for those of you in Relief Society, I apologize in advance if I seem a bit frazzled or covered in throw up.

If you see us feeding and think to yourself "Why are they forcing those poor babies to eat??"  Just know that we hate it too... but right now, it's the only way.

I can do it, I can do it!  :)  Wish me luck today... I need it!  Diet coke... I might just have to use you today haha.